Wednesday, April 16, 2008


GRANNIE ANNIE’S
TOP TEN LIST
THE CHICAGO BAR ASSOCIATION



10. Why do some Illinois State Representatives tell me that in order to get legislative approval for any adoptee rights bill, and in particular HB 4623, (a bill to give some adopted adults their original birth certificate) it must first pass muster with the Chicago Bar Association?


9. Why does the Chicago Bar Association ALWAYS oppose the unconditional issuing of original birth certificates to adopted men and women?


8. Are you all adoptive parents?


7. What legal right, duty, or hold does the bar association have over adopted adults?


6. Are the members of the Chicago Bar Association smarter than members of adoptee rights organizations?


5. Does the Chicago Bar Association have more experience being adopted than members of adoptee rights organizations?


4. Is the bar association afraid that the legislators aren’t smart enough to present a bill that is legal?


3. Are you all birth mothers or birth fathers?


2. Why is the Chicago Bar Association special in the eyes of the lawmakers? Why did you get a heads up on the date and time of the Wednesday, March 13, 2008 hearing on HB 4623? Representative Sara Feigenholtz scheduled a hearing AND VOTE on HB 4623 but did not let the public know until just hours before the hearing was set, thus effectively preventing the public from expressing its opinions on this bill. Does she like you better than she likes me?


AND THE NUMBER ONE QUESTION FOR THE CHICAGO BAR ASSOCIATION IS

1. WHAT’S IN IT FOR YOU?

Monday, April 07, 2008

ILLINOIS: IMMEDIATE ACTION NEEDED

BASTARD NATION: THE ADOPTEE RIGHTS ORGANIZATION
P.O. Box 1469
Edmond, OK 73083-1469
415-479-3741
http://www.bastards.org/


PLEASE DISTRIBUTE FREELY

ILLINOIS ACTION ALERT

URGE THE ILLINOIS HOUSE TO VOTE NO ON HB4623.

HB 4623, sponsored by Representative Sara Feigenholtz, is a dangerous bill and must be voted down. Sometime during the month of April, the Illinois House of Representatives is scheduled to vote on HB4623. We do not know what day the bill will get to the House floor, so we must ACT IMMEDIATELY in order to let our voices be heard. {Please see easy Contact Information below}

IF PASSED INTO LAW, HB 4623 WOULD…

1. …..give birth parents 6 months after the bill is passed to file “Denial of Information” forms with the Adoption Registry. Any adoptee whose birth parent files a “Denial of Information” form will NOT receive an original birth certificate. This section includes a 6 month advertising campaign to let birthmothers know their choices.

2…..define three different classes of adult adoptees, those born before 1946, those born between January 1, 1946 and January 2009, and all prospective adoptions.

3.…..give all prospective birth parents 21 years in which to file a Denial of Information Form. Current law requires them to file a denial within 6 months.

4.…..give birth parents 5 options that range from contact to anonymity to choose from.

5.…..permit redacting ( or whiting-out) an official document.
6.…..codify "anonymity" for the first time.
7.…..make all of the birth parent options go through the Illinois Adoption Registry where the concerns are related to searching rather than to civil rights.
8…..allow for the possibility of adoptees receiving copies of birth certificates with birth parent names removed as well as the adoptee's name.
9.…..grant access veto powers to birth parents who relinquished all legal rights to the adoptee as a child.

PLEASE E-MAIL, WRITE, CALL, or FAX THE MEMBERS OF THE ILLINOIS HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES IMMEDIATELY. TELL THEM THAT HB4623 IS A SERIOUSLY FLAWED BILL WHICH MUST BE VOTED DOWN SO THAT A TRUE ADOPTEE RIGHTS BILL CAN BE WRITTEN AND FILED IN ITS PLACE.


WE HAVE BEEN TOLD THAT THE BILL NEEDS 70+ VOTES IN ORDER TO PASS OUT OF THE HOUSE. WE MUST PUT AN END TO IT RIGHT IN THE HOUSE WHERE IT BEGAN!


Background
HB 4623 began back in January as a shell bill purportedly to make changes to the IL CI system. On Monday, March 10th, Rep. Feigenholtz announced her new OBC search bill, HB 4623. On Tuesday, March 12, the shell bill was transformed into the new 77 page OBC search bill. On Wednesday, March 13th, the new bill went straight to the House Adoption Reform Committee, of which Rep. Feigenholtz just happens to be chair. That very same day, the committee voted 8-1 vote to pass the bill. The new 77 page bill was only put up on the IL website hours before the hearing so there was no time for interested parties to testify. No wonder the committee passed the bill; even they didn't have time to read all 77 pages.


This bill has been rejected by many adoption reform coalitions, including Illinois Open.

The 77 page complete text of the bill is at
http://www.ilga.gov/legislation/fulltext.asp?DocName=&SessionId=51&GA=95&DocTypeId=HB&DocNum=4623&GAID=9&LegID=35302&SpecSess=&Session=
Bastard Nation: http://www.bastards.org/
Illinois Open My Space http://www.myspace.com/illlinoisopen
Illinois Open web page http://www.ilopen.org/
Adoption Reform Illinois Resource Page: HB 4623 opposition coalition letter to legislators and media http://www.73adoptee.com/2008%20open%20letter.pdf

CONTACT INFORMATION – Cut and paste
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For a comprehensive list of all 118 members of the House of Representatives, please go to:

http://www.ilopen.org/

Friday, April 04, 2008

REPLACE ILLINOIS HB 4623







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NEW BILL NEEDED TO REPLACE ILLINOIS HB 4623

HB 4623 is a flawed bill. I oppose it in the hope of being able to see it changed into a bill which we can all be proud of; a bill that will serve all adopted men and women equally.





HB 4623 - A FLAWED BILL
  • HB 4623 allows birth parents to have the final “say” in whether or not an adopted adult can have his or her original birth certificate. These are the very same birth parents who relinquished all legal rights to their biological offspring at least 21 years ago.
  • Adopted adults whose birth mothers file a “Denial of Information Request” will not be able to receive a copy of their original birth certificate.
  • In prospective adoptions, birth parents will have 21 years after they legally relinquish their offspring to decide whether or not to file a denial of information.

  • This bill gives birth parents the option of being “legally anonymous,” a very dangerous precedent to set.

  • HB 4623 will divide adoptees into three different groups: 1) those born before 1946; 2) those born between 1946 and 2009; and 3) all prospective adoptions after 2009. Each tier of adoptees will be treated differently under HB 4623.

  • The bill continues to treat adopted adults as “children belonging to the state.” It requires all adoptees to use the Illinois Adoption Registry to manage their private and personal affairs. Adopted adults do not need any assistance from an Adoption Registry if they are truly on a par with non-adopted citizens.

  • The bill proposes redacting (or whiting-out) of an official document.

I do not wish to be a naysayer or a spoiler who wants to prevent any adopted adults from receiving their original birth certificate. Believe me, I’m an adoptee and I know what it feels like to be kept in the dark by the state for decades. It breeds shame

My goal is for every single adoptee in Illinois to be able to request and receive, unconditionally, their original birth certificates. I want every single adoptee in Illinois to be completely severed from any state control when they become adults. I don’t want to leave even one adoptee behind in the clutches of the state.

The only way to accomplish this really modest goal is for the legislators to vote down HB 4623 as quickly as possible. Then we can go right back to the table and work together to write a new bill that will restore the civil and human right of all Illinois adopted adults to access their original birth certificates without bureaucratic restraint or third party interference.


A NEW BILL


All adopted adults, upon reaching the age of majority and upon written request, shall be able to request and receive a copy of their original birth certificate without any restrictions or falsifications on the certificate, in a manner identical to that of all other non-adopted citizens of the state.


  • A new and improved bill would be one in which no anonymity forms would be allowed. There could be a respectful non-binding contact form for birth parents to use if they wish.
  • A new and improved bill would set all adopted adults forever free from government interference with their private lives.
  • In a new bill, birth parents would not be able to “rule” their biological offspring for the rest of their lives.
  • A new and improved bill would prevent the state from establishing a new category in the law – one in which the state would give birth parents an assurance of anonymity from their biological offspring.
  • A new and improved bill would not need any assistance from the Illinois Adoption Registry or the Confidential Intermediary System. A new bill would issue original birth certificates to adopted adults in the very same way all other citizens get their certificates – from the Departments of Public Health of the Departments of Vital Statistics – NOT via an adoption registry. Adopted adults do not need any assistance from an Adoption Registry if they are truly on a par with non-adopted citizens.
  • A new and improved bill would cut all ties between every single adoptee and the state when the adoptee reaches the age of majority.
  • A new bill would never try to balance adoptee rights with birth parent rights.

Writing a bill to help some adoptees isn’t just, it isn’t fair and it isn’t the right thing to do. It takes the same amount of work and energy to help ALL adoptees as it does to help only some of them.

So let’s do it.



Please take just a few minutes to help all adopted adults. You can write to your representative in the Illinois House of Representatives and let him or her know that you believe HB 4623 is a damaged bill and that it must not be allowed to pass in the House. Instead, a new bill must be crafted to take its place, one that will treat all adopted adults equally.

You can find out who your representative is, please go to





http://www.elections.il.gov/districtlocator/SelectSearchType.aspx

















Saturday, March 01, 2008

NO APOLOGIES PLEASE

NO APOLOGIES PLEASE

I’d like to relate an experience I had 13 years ago while lobbying in Illinois for an open records bill. Many of you may have heard it before, but please stick with me.

There were three of us that day and we were sitting in the office of a very senior Illinois State Senator. After some polite discussion, the Senator stood up behind her desk, looked us right in the eyes and pronounced, “Civil rights? You don’t have any civil rights. We already gave you your civil rights when your mothers didn’t want you.”

At that moment in time, I felt crushed. How could anyone say such a thing? I wanted to cry and most of all, I wanted to get the hell out of that office before any one of us said something we thought we might be sorry for later. Our perception was that this woman would never change her mind and we didn’t want to spend another minute in her presence. But what did our speedy retreat tell this woman? It told her that she was right and that we were sorry.

When I related this story to my friends on the Internet, everyone was outraged and angry and sympathetic. Imagine an elected official saying something like that!

But here comes the best part of the story, the part I never told anyone before.
One person, Damz, reacted differently. She told me that if it were her, she would have left the office and gone immediately to the press room in the capital building, grabbed the first reporter she could get,and held an immediate press conference.

Can you see the different paradigms we were operating in? My mindset was shame and fear. My response was to retreat. Damz saw this situation in an entirely different light. Her response was to demand justice. She wouldn’t have “apologized.”

We all need to develop a paradigm of “We demand justice!” The birth certificates that are being withheld from us do not belong to the state or our parents – they belong to US. It is our human and civil right to have our original birth certificate. We are the most important persons in the whole adoption system– not any parents, lawyers, agencies, social workers, ad infinitum.

Don’t apologize for your bill, not even subconsciously. If it’s a good bill, then it is well-worth fighting for.You have to believe in your bill 100%. Just because some legislators aren’t going to like it doesn’t mean that i isn't a good bill and it can’t get passed. There will always be opposition but if you know in your heart how good your bill is, you just keep on fighting for it. Get the other side to change their minds.



Strategizing is important, of course, but I know from personal experience that if you start out with a mindset consisting of concerns about how you might change your bill to satisfy reluctant legislators, you’re half way to defeat on day one. You’ve already begun apologizing.

I have to tell you that 13 years ago I was intimidated by legislators and I was afraid of them too. Yep, that’s right – they scared me before I ever met them face to face. I went into too many meetings and legislator's offices with an attitude of wanting "to please everyone." I wish I could have been stronger when facing down an opponent. I wish I hadn’t been intimidated simply by virtue of their position in life. In my mind, they were “important” and I wasn’t.

We were defeated in Illinois, and looking back, I guess I would have done a lot of things differently. But the most memorable experience I bring away with me is that you have to totally believe in yourself and in your bill. Don’t apologize. Why should you? You know that your bill is just fine the way it is.

So please listen to this old grannie. HOW you think about yourself and your bill is everything. YOU are important – just as important as any elected official. Your BILL is important. It will restore to adopted men and women a right that the state stole from you years ago. It will make things whole again.

Thursday, February 21, 2008

IL BILL: WHAT'S HAPPENING?

Friends of IllinoisOpen

I have had some contact with Representative Sara Feigenholtz over this last weekend. The bill she and her aide Melisha Mitchell have written has apparently not yet been filed. They had indicated that it would be posted on Tuesday February 19th but so far, it isn’t there.

But no matter what, I was told that the bill will definitely not be an unconditional bill where ALL adoptees in the state would be treated equally.

Representative Feigenholtz’s bill has a disclosure veto. All past denial affidavits that have been filed with the Registry will be honored. Additionally, if this bill should pass, it contains a one year period called an “information campaign” during which a birth parent can file a non-disclosure affidavit which will be honored by the state. If one birth parent files a denial, the birth certificate might still be issued but all information about the other parent will be redacted; that is, whited out.

The bill has a prospective element but that too contains provisions for birth parents to file non-disclosure affidavits.

A good percentage of Illinois’ adopted adults would be able to get their original birth certificate with this proposed bill. But not ALL. The only category of adopted persons that would ALL be able to receive their original birth certificate with no restrictions would be those adoptees born before 1946.

I expected the bill to have been already posted but so far it isn’t. I honestly don’t know why. I could speculate but that isn’t really productive.

The last time I spoke to Representative Feigenholtz was on Sunday, Feb. 17th. I told her about the many of you who have written to her, more than once, to express your opinions but received no reply. She replied that it had something to do with the clerk’s sorting the mail. I told her straight out that she should be listening to you all.

Representative Feigenholtz told me that in her experienced opinion, an unconditional access bill, such as the ones in Oregon, New Hampshire, Alabama and Maine, would NEVER pass in Illinois. She said that if she were to file a 100% unconditional access bill, it would languish and die in the Rules Committee. It would go nowhere. She told me that “it just won’t fly.” Her reason is that the politics of IL are different from these other states.

Representative Feigenholtz maintains that much of the opposition comes from the Chicago Bar Association. I tried very very hard to persuade the Representative that she should be listening to adoptees, not attorneys. I tried to persuade her to go with the contact preference form that was put into place in Oregon and is in the bills of the other open states. I twice sent her the texts of the bills from each of these states plus the text of every contact preference form. I also sent her the latest statistics on how the contact preference forms are being used.
I wish I had better news to report. At this point, this is all I know about what Representative Feigenholtz’s plans.

Now I’ll tell you how I feel personally.

I believe that “ALL” minus even one adoptee, is not ALL, and is therefore not acceptable. If true unconditional access can work so easily in these other states mentioned, then it could work in Illinois too, if people wanted to work hard to make it work. In my opinion, we’re not so different here as the Representative purports. I believe that if you are going to expend so much energy, time, talent and money into a bill that champions adoptee rights, then you don’t stop short of your goal. All adopted adults in Illinois must be treated equally under the law. I believe that we must not leave even one adoptee behind.

I tried to explain to Representative Feigenholtz that a true adoptee rights bill is different than a search/reunion bill. But she doesn’t seem to get it or if she does, she doesn’t want to act on it. She always brings us back to the attorneys who are worried about their clients, (past, present and future). And that is a search/reunion issue. It is not about the human and civil right of every adopted adult to own his or her own truth.

I expressed my opinions, and many more arguments, over and over and over to Representative Feigenholtz. She replied that I’m living in some “sort of dream world.” She says that I don’t live in the real world of politics. That may be true, but I still believe that my dream is better than all of the conditional plans presented - plans which still allow the state to have control over adopted adults.

Stay tuned.

Monday, January 07, 2008

UPDATE - ILLINOIS OPEN

Hello Illinois Open Friends

The Illinois Legislature will be back in session this week. Representative Sara Feigenholtz (D – Chgo) has expressed interest in filing an open records bill. The deadline is Friday, January 11th.

I don’t think I’ll get an opportunity to see the bill before it’s finished. I have no idea what kind of bill is going to be written. But I’ll let you all know just as soon as I know.

Stay tuned.

Sincerely,

Anita
Anita Walker Field

Thursday, January 03, 2008

To Tell the Truth

SUPPORT "ILLINOIS OPEN," THE GRASSROOTS MOVEMENT TO BRING
A NO-COMPROMISE ACCESS BILL TO ILLINOIS.

TO TELL THE TRUTH

There are six states in the United States that tell the truth to adopted men and women. Alaska, Kansas, Oregon, Alabama, New Hampshire, and Maine (beginning January 1, 2009) release to adopted adults their unaltered, original birth certificates, with no conditions attached. These states treat all adopted citizens in the same way as all other individuals in their states. They don’t keep secrets from any of their citizens.

The other forty-four states treat adopted men and women as eternal children, second class citizens, and morons. Adoptee’s original birth certificates and other adoption documents are impounded and sealed in perpetuity – as in forever.

Over the years, many legislators have told me that I couldn’t have my original birth certificate because my birth mother has rights, and her rights trump mine. But Honorable Senators and Representatives , giving me my birth certificate is not about who has more rights. It’s about states keeping secrets from one group of citizens – that group who just happened to have been adopted.

I believe that it is the duty of the state to give me my original birth certificate with no strings attached. This document belongs to me, regardless of the circumstances surrounding my birth. I can frame it, put it in my scrapbook, use it to look for my birth mother, stash it in my safety deposit box, or line the bird cage with it. It doesn’t matter! I am requesting an historical document that was generated by the state solely because of my birth.

Several years ago I was lobbying in the Illinois State Capitol for a new law to change the way in which adopted adults get their original birth certificates. An Illinois State Senator put it succinctly though not tactfully when she told me, “You have no civil rights. You got your civil rights when we found a home for you when your mother didn’t want you.”

I’ll wager plenty of mothers who parented their children didn’t want them either, but never mind. They’ll get their birth certificates.

When I wrote to the Illinois Department of Health to request my original birth certificate, I was told that “No such record exists.” Each time I get another letter like this from the state I pinch myself just to make sure I’m still breathing. Their replies all translate into one simple sentence – “We are never going to give you your original birth certificate because you were adopted.”

The professional social workers tell the judges that I can’t be trusted with my original birth certificate. They think that I need a Nanny to intercede for me. The courts don’t believe me - the one person who is directly affected by the law. Instead the judges listen to the professional social workers and go along with their Nanny Plan. The judges and the social workers don’t think that I’m smart enough to handle my personal and private issues.

When I asked a Cook County appointed social worker about my original birth certificate, she told me she could only give me non-identifying information because as I told you before, the state doesn’t trust me with any original information. My Court Nanny told me that my mother was white and 17 years old. That was it! A little later I think the Nanny felt kind of sorry for me, so she threw a “bonus” my way. “Your birth mother,” she told me, “was born in a state contiguous to Illinois.”

I felt as if I were playing “The Wheel of Fortune” only they didn’t let me buy any vowels.

There are some church groups who don’t want any of us adoptees to have our original birth certificates either. These church groups have major lobbyists working for them in every state house. What the churches want or don’t want trumps whatever I want - that’s for certain. Many churches teach that it’s a sin to have a child out of wedlock. They don’t like me because I’m tainted.

And then there’s one particular church group who has lots of experience in “cover-ups.” Their quasi-legal and often illegal adoption practices are just one more activity they want to cover-up. They don’t want me to ever have my original birth certificate because in the old days, many of this church’s adoption deals weren’t exactly “Kosher” if you know what I mean. The church doesn’t want people to know that is used to handle adoptions with secrets and lots of lies.

Adoption agencies and attorneys have the same exact problem as the church groups – how to handle the lies they used to tell. These agencies fill the corridors of state capitols everywhere with influential lobbyists. And again, the lawmakers are listening to the lobbyists, not to me.

These agencies and attorneys have lied to adoptive parents and birth parents for many decades. They altered records, changed names and dates of birth, omitted medical information, and did not give birth mothers adequate legal representation or professional counseling. Yet all the while they were busy collecting huge fees for themselves. Hanky Panky Agencies became very profitable cottage industries. Adopted adults who are walking around today with original birth documents are potential threats to the adoption BUSINESS.

I don’t want any state governments or their associates hiding information about me from me. You wouldn’t like it either. There should be a free flow of information between individuals and their governments. And that means ALL individuals, even those of us whose mothers didn’t want us.


Sunday, December 30, 2007

ILLINOIS OPEN ORGANIZATION

GRAND OPENING
PLEASE FORWARD FREELY
ILLINOIS OPEN
http://www.ilopen.org
obc@ilopen.org
MISSION STATEMENT
Illinois Open advocates the issuing to all Illinois adult adoptees, upon request and unconditionally, a copy of their unaltered original birth certificate
GOALS
Illinois Open is an informational organization. Its goals are to educate the public about sealed records as well as locate grassroots supporters of equal access to the original birth certificate for all adopted men and women in Illinois.

Currently, the only way adopted adults in Illinois can receive a copy of their original birth certificate is by petitioning the court and showing good cause, a lengthy, costly, and time consuming process .

Illinois Open is asking the State of Illinois to repeal or amend its Adoption Act so that all adopted adults can get their original birth certificate in the same manner as all non-adopted citizens.

We want to hear from you. Please write to us at
obc@ilopen.org
.

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

"Adoption Mystique"is finalist for USA Book News 2007 National Books Award

Grannie Annie agrees! This is a wonderful book!

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The Adoption Mystique Award Winning Finalist In the USA Book News 2007 National Best Books Award

Kissimmee, Fl - November 2007 - On November 1, 2007, USABookNews.com, the premiere online magazine and review website for mainstream and independent publishing houses, announced the winners and finalist of the 2007 National Best Books Awards. Winners and finalists traversed the publishing landscape. They included publishing houses like Simon & Schuster, Penguin-Putnam, HarperCollins, Random House, and McGraw-Hill. Amongst the winners, The Adoption Mystique: A Hard-hitting Exposé of the Powerful Negative Social Stigma that Permeates Child Adoption in the United States was a finalist in the social change category.

Listed as recommended reading by The American Adoption Congress (AAC), The Adoption Mystique, written by Joanne Wolf Small, M. S. W., is a well researched book that questions and challenges the stigma that permeates the many readily accepted and rarely questioned social norms and myths that continue to support adoptee and adoptive family intolerance, and hinder efforts to make positive and healthy changes that would help to bring adoption policy and practice into the 21st century.

Midwest Book Review says, "The Adoption Mystique is not a general book about adoption, but rather a focused, politically-minded call for the civil rights of adoptees" as it "examines bias against adoptees in the media and society." Carrie Craft from About.com Adoption writes, "author Joanne Wolf Small, M.S.W. just doesn't break the adoption myth, she shatters it with her compilation of various research studies, essays, and personal knowledge on the subject of adoption...The Adoption Mystique is respectful and not at all anti-adoption, just pro-truth and openness." It is a useful proven resource for all whose lives have been touched by adoption.

"Your essays are so thoughtful - and so rich in conveying the historical context for adoption in general and the policies and practices surrounding information sharing, in particular, and in conveying the critical psychosocial issues that lie at the heart of adoption. I am certain that your book will be viewed as a critical resource for policy makers and practitioners seeking to better understand adoption." - Madelyn Freundlich, Senior Policy Analyst, and former Executive Director, Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute


ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Joanne W. Small, M.S.W is an adopted adult, adoption rights activist, author, and psychotherapist. She was executive director of Adoptees in Search (AIS) and served as the first and only adopted person on the Model Adoption Legislative Procedures and Advisory Panel. Her 30 year professional experience includes a post-adoption clinical practice, clinical supervision, in-service training and seminars, lectures, publications, and interviews with over a thousand adoptive family members. Visit her website at http://www.jwsmall.com/.###


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Saturday, November 17, 2007

AN ADOPTED WOMAN TALKS BACK

Adopted adults are fighting for the right to request and receive our original birth certificates with no conditions or falsifications. In a free society, states cannot hold on to their power to withhold our identity information from us. We are adopted men and women – not enemies of the state.

The state governments must get out of the search and reunion business. They must also get out of the business of gathering our medical information. If we wish, we can do all of these things on our own.

§ We are not asking for anyone in the government or private sector to help us find our first parents.

§ We are not asking for anyone in the government or private sector to plan or mediate reunions between us and any other person on this planet.

§ We are not asking for anyone in the government or private sector to secure medical information for us.

§ We are not asking for anyone in the government or private sector to tell us which relatives are okay and which are not okay to associate with.

The states should be and indeed they are in the ADOPTION business, because it is important to find permanent homes for children who need them. That’s good. But once we homeless children reach the age of majority, the states should wish us a good life and say goodbye. They really must stop interfering in our lives forever!

The only way to accomplish this change is for the legislatures to repeal the antiquated sealed records section of their laws. Then we adoptees will once again be free to access the records of our birth. That’s all we are asking.




Friday, October 26, 2007

A LESSON FOR DEFORMERS
Bastard Nation is Not the Only Ones who Oppose Baby Step Bills

DISCLAIMER: This blog is not intended to compare in any way the issues facing immigrants in America with the totally different issues of adopted adults in our country. I take no stand, pro or con, on America’s immigration policies.
What is a Deformer? Adoption deformer is a phrase coined by Marley Greiner, Executive Chair of Bastard Nation. Deformers are adoptees who us to proceed in baby steps. They ask us to accept bills which provide for conditional access, disclosure vetoes, contact vetoes, intermediary bills, white-out provisions or tiered legislation. Deformers claim that these conditional access bills have a better chance of being passed and that is reason enough for us to support them. They tell us that legislation which gives some adoptees restricted access to their original birth certificates is "better than nothing." They claim that conditional access legislation serves as intermediate steps to someday getting the true open records legislation.

The Chicago Tribune reported on Thursday, Oct. 25th, that the Senate fell short Wednesday of the 60 votes needed to debate the Dream Act, a bill that would give young undocumented immigrants the possibility of citizenship if they were brought illegally to the US as children.

What caught my attention was the part of the article that discussed the reasoning behind some of the senators’ votes – one long term senator in particular.

“Senator Arlen Specter (R-Pa) said he likes the Dream Act and believes it should be enacted, yet he voted against allowing the Senate to proceed.

“’I do not think we ought to cherry-pick here,’ Specter said.

“I have grave reservations about seeing a part of comprehensive immigration reform go forward, because it weakens our position to get a comprehensive bill.’”

Deformers: If you truly want to see All adopted adults in the United States and Canada have unconditional and unrestricted access to their original birth certificates, then hang on to those convictions. Stop trying to pass open records bills that will “weaken our position to get a comprehensive bill.”






Wednesday, September 12, 2007

OPEN LETTER TO SUSAN HICKS & ABC

WHAT WILL YOU TELL THE “BLACKLISTED ONES?”


The Massachusetts Committee of ABC was one of the prime supporters of SB 63. I have read over your webpage and discovered that something very important is totally missing from ABC’s laundry list of superlatives about SB 63. The missing link is your feelings and attitudes toward the “Blacklisted Ones” – you know, the adopted men and women who happened to have been born on the politically incorrect dates between July 17, 1974 and December 31, 2007. What do you say to these adoptees who will still have to go to court to get their birth certificates?


Will you look them in the face and tell them how good SB 63 is?

Will you pat them on the back and thank them for being martyrs to the cause?

Will you tell them that you'll come back in a year or two to revisit the law and then you will support changing it to include the Blacklisted Ones?

Will you tell them that with all political issues there are bound to be scapegoats? And with SB 63, they are the scapegoats.

Will you look them in the eyes and tell them that this bill was the right thing to do?

Will you tell them that leaving them out in the cold was the politically expedient thing that you all had to do in order to get this bill passed into law?

Will you tell them you’re sorry?













Sunday, September 09, 2007

MORE ON MA DISASTER - BLESSED ONES ARE NOT TO BLAME

TO THE BLESSED ONES:

You all should NOT feel guilty about being in the Blessed category. You all didn't do anything wrong! The ones who wrote and passed this law are the guilty ones. Funny, isn't it? Right now, I don't hear any celebrations from them - I think they're hiding under some rug.

Blessed Ones, don't feel guilty. Sometimes in life you find yourself in the right place at the right time. So you all run, not walk, to your nearest Vital Stats office and get your original birth certificates. They belong to YOU.

Friday, September 07, 2007

DISASTER IN MASSACHUSETTS

ABC SAYS………
GRANNIE ANNIE SAYS………

ABC (Access to uncertified Birth Certificates) is the Massachusetts Group that fought to pass SB 63 into law. They are so happy about passing SB 63 and have devoted a whole website page to “What SB 63 is all about.”

For sake of clarity, I will refer to all adopted men and women born between July 17, 1974 and December 31, 2007 as “the blacklisted ones.” Remember, these are the adopted persons who cannot get their original birth certificates like everyone else.

All ABC statements are in red and are directly and fully quoted from ABC’s website. http:www.accesstobirthcertificates.org.


Senate Bill #63 is about stopping the clock now. Every year that goes by, we add thousands of newly adopted persons to the list of people who are excluded from access to their original uncertified birth certificates.

No, No, No, ABC! You can NOT stop the clock. Not any clock. Not the wind-up kind my grandma used to have nor the atomic clocks sold at Sharper Image. The clock continues to tick for us all - the blacklisted ones and all the rest of us.

Every second that passes is yet another second that the blacklisted ones are being kept in their black hole where their identity information is being withheld from them. Honest! They can hear those clocks just whirring away, marking the passage of time and counting the days, weeks, and years that they are going without access to their original birth certificates.

Before July 17, 1974 adult adopted persons over the age of 18 or adoptive parents of minor adopted persons were able to access an uncertified copy of the adopted person’s original birth certificate. Therefore, all birth mothers who relinquished before July 17, 1974 relinquished during the years when access was the law of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts.

JUST A MINUTE! HOLD YOUR HORSES! You’re making a giant leap from fact to fantasy here.

Shame on you, ABC. This argument is only an assumption on your part - is not a fact. For the sake of your argument, you are assuming that the law change in 1974 which took away adopted peoples’ access to their birth records also means that the birth mothers who relinquished after 1974 were given legal assurances of confidentiality.

Oh yes, the legislature did change the access law but it did NOT ever address the legality of birthmother’s confidentiality in any way. Birthmother confidentiality has never been a LAW. Don’t equate a law about access with a wish for confidentiality!
Don't make a law where none existed before.

Senate Bill #63 will still require adopted persons born between July 17, 1974 and January 1, 2008 to obtain a court order. The bill also stipulates that evidence of a birth parents willingness to provide information about their identity to the adopted person shall serve as sufficient evidence to grant access to the birth certificate.

ABC’rs – have any of you gone to court to get an order to release your original birth certificates? Guess what? I have!

I spent about 2months doing research in law libraries and then at least another 4 months wending my way through the judicial system. During this time, I spent numerous days making court appearances, amending petitions, gathering more evidence, and enduring many continuances.

Total cost in dollars was well over $1000 – and that was without hiring an attorney. Add on a lawyer and you can add on several hundred dollars to the total expense.

ABC, do you ever wonder how many blacklisted ones have that much free time or money to go to court? Do you even care?

Senate Bill #63 will establish an Adoption Contact Information Registry at Vital Statistics for the purpose of housing information indicating whether or not a birthparent(s) wishes to grant access to the original birth certificate.

What? Yet ANOTHER REGISTRY? Are you serious? ROTFL

Senate Bill #63 is about respecting the judgment of adoptive parents to hold their infant, child, and teen's information and to make decisions in the best interest of their minor child.

Oh my! I didn’t even know that prior to passage of SB 63 adopted CHILDREN were able to make decisions about anything related to their adoptions.

Whew! It’s a relief to know that SB 63 will stop minor adopted CHILDREN from storming the Bureau of Vital Statistics.

Senate Bill #63 is about trusting Adult Adopted Persons, Birth Parents and Adoptive Parents--as we trust other citizens--to respect boundaries.

What boundaries? Whose boundaries?

Oh, I get it. The blacklisted ones must have a history of breaking boundaries? Is that it?

Heavens, there may even be some blacklisted ones in the clinker at this very moment, serving time for not respecting boundaries. No wonder you have to teach them about trust
.

Senate Bill #63 is about reinstating the same access that existed until 1974 in the Commonwealth of Massachusetts.

ABC, watch out!! You’re going backwards – and fast! Most people in the United States like to believe that they are moving forward on important issues. Most people want to change with the times. They believe in flexibility. But maybe they don’t know the issues as well as you do.

ABC, what other laws will you be going backwards to find and enforce? Would you like to go back to the 1950’s and enforce the “Gentlemen’s Agreements” about selling houses or renting hotel rooms to Jewish people?

Or maybe you don’t like African Americans drinking from your water fountains. Maybe that can be your next project – go back to the 40’s and 50’s and reinstate society the way it was then.

Say, maybe you’d like to reinstate the law that says women cannot vote. You’ll have to go pretty darned far to get that one, but hey, you’ve got lots of political experience. You can do it.

“Senate Bill #63 is about granting Adopted Persons their first formal certificate of membership in the human race and as citizens of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts.”

WHAT?

Just a minute. What’s wrong with the blacklisted ones? Why can’t they get a formal certificate of membership in the human race? Why can’t they be granted full citizenship in the Commonwealth of Massachusetts?

Is it because their mothers gave them away and don’t want them coming back?

Or maybe the blacklisted ones aren’t smart enough yet to get a formal certificate. Is it like a graduation certificate?


Could it be that the blacklisted ones are bad people, ones you really don’t want to join the rest of the human race anyway?

Or could it be that you all just don’t care?!

MASSACHUSETTS IS NOW LIVING ON ANIMAL FARM, WHERE ALL ADOPTED PEOPLE ARE EQUAL EXCEPT THAT SOME ADOPTED PEOPLE ARE MORE EQUAL THAN OTHERS.

Wednesday, September 05, 2007

MASSACHUSETTS SB 63


“An Act to Further Regulate the Access of Birth Certificates”


ARE YOU BLESSED OR ARE YOU BLACKLISTED?

SB 63 is one of the worst bills ever devised in adoption history. Under SB 63, adopted adults will be separated into two distinct categories based solely on dates of birth. I call them the BLESSED LIST and the BLACK LIST.

MASSACHUSETTS’ BLESSED LIST


1. Adopted men and women who were born before July 17, 1974.

2. Adopted children who will be born after January 1, 2008.


If you are the Blessed list, you will be able to request and receive from the Commonwealth’s Registrar your original birth certificates without any restrictions.


MASSACHUSETTS BLACK LIST

1. Adopted men and women who were born between the dates of
July 17, 1974 and January 1, 2008.


2. Adopted adults in all of the United States and Canada. This bill has the potential to set an unacceptable precedent in adoption law. If one state, Massachusetts, is allowed to blatantly discriminate against 34 years of adoptees, the potential for other states to copycat is great.

If you are on the Black List, you will only be able to request your original birth certificate by petitioning the courts.


HOW CAN YOU PROTEST TODAY?

SB 63 has passed both the Senate and the House and is awaiting the governor's signature within the next few days. Please phone, fax or email Governor Deval Patrick IMMEDIATELY and tell him to veto SB 63.


The Honorable Governor of Massachusetts Deval Patrick
Phone: 617 - 725 -4005
Fax (in state only) 617-927-9725
Email: http:www.mass.gov/


HOW CAN YOU PROTEST IN NOVEMBER?
ALL ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES!

THE SPONSORS OF SB 63 MUST ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS. THEY MUST BE VOTED OUT OF OFFICE.

SENATOR FREDERIC E. BERRY, Republican. Represents the districts of Second Essex, which includes Beverly, Peabody, Salem, Danvers, and Topsfield

SENATOR KAREN E. SPILKA. Democrat, Majority Leader of Senate, 2003 – 2008. Represents the districts of Second Middlesex and Norfolk

REPRESENTATIVE JOHN. A. LEPPER. Democrat, Minority Whip 2003 – present. Represents the Attleboro District, precincts one, two, and three.

Save this list and watch for these names at the next election!
PLEASE FORWARD FREELY

Thursday, July 05, 2007

WRITE A THANK YOU NOTE TO GOVERNOR LINGLE

Thanks, Governor Lingle!

Governor Linda Lingle has placed HB 1830 on her list of potential
bills that she will veto. She has until July 10th to act on this
list. After this date, the legislature may call a special session in
order to try and override any of the governor's vetoes. HB 1830,
known as the Safe Haven bill, would legalize the anonymous abandonment
of infants which directly brings about the theft of these babies'
true identities.

I firmly support Governor Lingle, as does my group, Bastard Nation:
The Adoptee Rights Organization. I send my most heartfelt thanks to
the governor for holding firm on the subject of Safe Havens. Governor
Lingle truly understands the underlying issues of safe havens. She has
insight into the problems that would arise as a result of a safe haven
law and she has the courage to stand up for her convictions.

Governor Linda Lingle has the best interests of Hawaii's families at
heart. She has her finger on the pulse of the people. She had a 71%
approval rate in 2005, 12th highest in the nation. Last year she was
reelected to the governor's office by the largest margin in the
state's history, 67% - 35%.

The people trust Governor Lingle. She knows that the citizens of
Hawaii will consider anonymous baby dumping an unacceptable practice.
Governor Lingle's veto will maintain the status quo – Hawaiian
families already know how to take care of children who cannot be
raised by their biological parents. They do not want or need safe
havens.

If you agree with Governor Lingle's position on safe havens, why not
drop her a note and thank her. Tell her that she has your support.
She needs to hear from all of us who have been directly affected by
identity theft. Here's her address.

The Honorable Linda Lingle
Governor, State of Hawaii
Executive Chambers
State Capitol
Hololulu, Hawaii 96813

Phone: (808) 586-0034
Fax: (808) 586- 0006
Email: governor.lingle@hawaii.gov








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Tuesday, June 26, 2007

AS MAINE GOES, SO GOES THE NATION.

MAINE PASSES OPEN RECORDS BILL

On June 25, HB 1084 was signed by Governor John Baldacci. This bill, which will go into effect January 1, 2009, recognizes the rights of all adopted adults 18 years and older in the state of Maine to request and receive, unconditionally, their original birth certificates.

Maine takes its place on the Honor Roll of states with totally open records for adopted adults: Kansas, Alaska, Oregon, Alabama and New Hampshire. Each time a new state joins the Honor Roll it makes it that much easier for the other states coming up. As Maine goes, so goes the nation. I know it's going to happen.

IT COULDN’T BE DONE WITHOUT...

The legislative sponsors of the bill, House Representative David Farrington and State Senator Paula Benoit. These two people believed in this bill and they worked tirelessly to make open records a reality in Maine.

Bobbi Beavers and OBC For ME, the grassroots organization that filed the bill and worked so hard to get it passed.

Every adopted man and woman and every birth parent in Maine who supported this bill and raised their voices to get it passed. You spoke and the government listened.

THANK YOU

All adopted adults and all birth parents in the United States and Canada are grateful to you all and we send you our most heartfelt THANKS!

And Grannie Annie sends everyone some big special “grannie hugs and kisses.” I am thrilled to see another state recognize the fact that adopted men and women must be treated equally under the laws. Maine’s bill stands as a beacon, shedding its light over the entire USA and Canada. Other states contemplating similar bills can look to Maine for guidance.

WAY TO GO, MAINE.

Thursday, June 14, 2007

PLEA TO HAWAII GOVERNOR LINDA LINGLE

Dear Governor Lingle:

I URGE YOU TO VETO HB 1830 which would create safe havens for women to
anonymously abandon their unwanted infants. You vetoed it last session
and I beg you to stand tall and strong and veto it again! You won't be
sorry!

I am adopted woman in her 60's, long active in adoptee rights
issues, and I know first hand how very wrong it is for any government
to strip in perpetuity even one baby of her ethnic history and
identity.

HB 1830 will not solve the problem of crisis pregnancies. In states
with safe haven laws, infants are still being dumped in trash bins,
toilets and back alleys. The solution to this tragic problem does not
lie with the creation of safe havens. Preventing disastrous results
from crisis pregnancies is a mental health issue. Viable solutions
must come from the psychiatric community - not from folks who want to
pass a bill that might "save one baby." These people are looking to
solve the problem after the fact instead of trying to reach women in
crises before they give birth. Please say NO to these well meaning but
misguided individuals.

HB 1830 would seriously damage the practice of "Hanai" in which
extended family and community care insures that children unable to be
reared by their biological parents are lovingly kept within the family
or close community where their identity and heritage remain intact.

HB 1830 would deny certain government benefits available to all
Native Hawai'ians because the "safe havened" infants would be
unable to prove their Native ancestry.

HB 1830 flies in the face of 100 years of social welfare and best
practices for children. It has been the norm until now for social
work professionals to rigorously oppose child abandonment of any
kind.

Thursday, May 24, 2007

Update: Wanted, a Miracle

Dear Friends,

Thank you all so much for your help and your support on my behalf in looking for a miracle. I don’t have enough words to tell you how much I appreciate it.

Unfortunately, the “facts” of my case lead nowhere. My goal is for someone to recognize something in the “facts” that might be true and trigger a memory of long ago. My second goal is the hope that someone might look at my photos and see a strong family resemblance.

When and if this ever happens, I promise you all that I’ll shout it from the roof tops right here.

Thanks a million for your encouragement and your help.

Sincerely,

Grannie Annie aka Anita

Wednesday, May 16, 2007

"Boston Legal" Funny or Offensive?

Okay, who watched "Boston Legal" Thursday night, May 16th on the ABC television
network?

Here's what happened. Brad and Denise (lawyers in the firm) are getting
married. Denise is 9 months preggie. She can't make it to the church because
she's in labor. Brad ( smartly outfitted in his full Marine uniform) hollers to
the church guests, "Quick. A bastard is being born. We need a priest!!!" At
this point we aren’t clear if the priest will marry the two lovebirds in time to
deliver a “normal” baby. Or, if he’s not on time, will he perform an exorcism
on the bastard ?

Switch to hospital room, where Denise is about .0001 centimeter away from giving
birth. The nurse is telling her “not to push yet.” Brad is still wailing for a
clergy person - ANY clergy person, be it rabbi, minister, guru, ship’s captain,
shaman - monk.- medicine man. Just so long as the person can get there in time
to "efface the bastard."

To the rescue - Shelley Berman, senile judge laid up in the next room, performs
the ceremony in his backless hospital gown, and saves the day

Next scene: Now Denise can push and a beautiful baby girl is born. Daddy Brad
says, "She's the most beautiful daughter in the whole world."

I wonder what the baby would have looked like if she had been born a few minutes
earlier? Would she still have been beautiful?

Funny or offensive?

I was stunned. I’m quite used to hearing the word “bastard” being tossed around
as an old and established insult, as in “I’ll kick that bastard’s ass,” or “The
bastard won’t give me a divorce.” That’s fine with me.

But I’m not accustomed to hearing a new baby blatantly labeled a bastard on
national television and I do not like it one bit. I was offended; in fact, I
was astounded!

This show comes directly from the mouth of producer and director David Chase,
long time self- righteous television producer/preacher..

David Chase has often used “Boston Legal,” (and its predecessor “The Firm” ) as
a sounding board for his personal political viewpoints. It’s like going to church. Somewhere near the end of nearly every episode you sigh
because you know what’s coming next - the sermon.,

Wouldn’t it be nice if David Chase would stop calling for the effacement of
bastards and instead take a look at the real issues that surround all adult
bastards and their families.

I’d love to hear James Spader stand before a jury and plead our case. Let him
call for the effacement of all sealed records laws. Now that would be justice.

So why do we call ourselves Bastards at Bastard Nation?

The half-century old archaic practice of impounding and sealing an adopted
person's original birth records in perpetuity has had the disastrous effect of
breeding deep and long lasting attitudes of shame in all areas of the adoption
process. Secrets and lies abound.

So we decided to reclaim the term "Bastard" -- to take it back and make it ours.
In so doing, we hope to explode the myths of shame surrounding adoption and
focus attention on the absolute necessity of changing the laws.

We folks at Bastard Nation believe that there is NOTHING shameful about
adoption. We selected this name because we will no longer be made to feel shamed
by the odious state laws which permanently seal our original birth records.

We do not fling the word "bastard" at anyone. Rather, we wear it proudly as we
work to achieve our goal of equal and unconditional access to original birth
records for each and every adult adoptee.

Since our founding in 1996, Bastard Nation: The Adoptee Rights Organization, has
redefined the adoptee rights struggle in terms of civil rights, empowerment and
tactical activism.


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